Monday, October 3, 2011

For Parents

I would like start this post off by acknowledging the goodness of God in my life. The wisdom, love, and insight of my wife are by no means my doing, but a tribute to His goodness in my life. In the midst of keeping up with class work, studying, and preparing for sermons, the last thing that I wanted to add to my week was another book; but my wife encouraged me with all the passion of a loving mother, burdened for her children to read Bringing Up Girls by James Dobson.

Having now finished this wonderful book, I feel like I did after completing my first real week of range training as a Green Beret, on an ODA. Sure when you join the Army they teach you the basics of how to use a weapon. How to, load, unload, assemble, disassemble, even perform immediate action, in the case of a malfunction during operation. What the army did not teach me however was how to shoot move and communicate, all the while, hitting your intended target. Those senior to me on my ODA taught me how to fire in the dark with the use of night vision devices, how, to transition from a rifle to a pistol without hesitation, how to reload on the move and reengage the target. That is what this book did for me as a dad.

Another thing I remember from that first week on the range with my team was thinking; “Why don’t they teach this stuff at basic training? Everyone needs this!” The same is true in our families. Sometimes as parents we take the basics of life or our own experiences and feel as though that is all we need in order to raise Godly Disciples of Christ. That simply just isn’t true. Our skills as parents are not given to us at the birth of our children. Instead, just as any real skill that we possess it is a combination, of education, training, discipline, and the grace of God. To take this for granted is an exercise is self inflation. Or perhaps better said; is to be “puffed up”.

Bringing Up Girls is a wonderful tool that I wish I had read a few years ago. It has brought to light many things that have left my wife and I scratching our heads at, this past year. Let me encourage all parents of all children, to pick this book up and further your education in what is going on in the life of your children. Further your understanding in what is going on in the heads, bodies and hearts of your daughters; and how to relate to them in the different stages of their lives. From birth to the grave this book has practical information and advice for a loving and nurturing relationship with your daughters.